Today I thought it would be fun to sit down and talk with the leading man from The Laws of Entanglement. Here to discuss his perspective on life, love, and the dubious pleasure of being a love interest, is Raven.
M: Welcome to the interview room, Raven.
R: Thank you. It’s a pleasure to be here.
M: And we’re happy to have you. We get to hear a lot of Kara’s perspective in the novel, but we don’t get to hear a lot of yours. Some of our readers have expressed an interest in knowing more about you.
R: *laughs and runs his hand through his hair* I’ll do my best not to disappoint them then.
M: How does it feel to be the love interest in a paranormal romance novel?
R: *laughs* It’s kind of fun, actually. I always wanted to be a leading man. Growing up as a Hapa kid who knew from a very young age that I wanted to act, there were extremely limited examples for me to draw from. There aren’t a lot of casting calls for Asians in Hollywood, and there are even less for romantic lead. I didn’t want to be limited to comedic relief or action hero. I wanted to play the serious roles, be the guy who got the girl.
M: Well, you got the girl…
R: *laughs* Spoilers…
M: So… tell us more about you, Raven. Kara seems to think you’re an angel without any flaws. Surely you have some. Tell us one of your bad habits.
R: I drink too much coffee.
M: That’s not helpful. You still sound like an angel. Let me rephrase the question. We see in the novel how you helped Kara grow as a person. How has she helped you to grow?
R: I’ve grown up a lot and learned to love myself more. Seeing your own flaws reflected back at you in someone you love teaches you to be kinder with yourself.
M: Can you give us an example?
R: Her low self-esteem. I struggled with abandonment driven esteem issues myself, always feeling like I needed to be more. Seeing that in Kara made me want to protect her and prove to her that she was worth loving. Somewhere along the way I realized it was me I was proving was worthy of love.
R: In all my past relationships I started out trying to impress them. But Kara came to the table already impressed, and that wasn’t helpful for either of us. I didn’t need to be worshipped. And she didn’t need a false idol. She didn’t need me to show off, she needed me to be human. to be vulnerable, and explore a side of myself I always felt… was a burden. With her, my traumas were a bonding experience, something to build trust and safety. She got to know me as a person in a very authentic way much quicker than anyone else I’d ever known. Because that’s what she needed from me.
M: She needed your darkness.
R: Yeah. I didn’t have to worry about hiding it from her. I could be completely open. That’s a pretty powerful gift for a man in our society, you know? Especially when you grow up with a single mom. You’re so used to being strong and tough, that it can be terrifying to cry. Being with a woman who not only allows you to cry, but needs you to, gives you an opportunity to be strong in a whole new way. Being with her allowed me to explore my vulnerabilities while still acting as a protector.
M: So, what advice would you give to people out there looking for love right now?
R: Be yourself.
M: That’s it?
R: You’re wasting your time trying to impress people. When you meet the right person, they will already be impressed with you — the real you. The right person needs you, all of you; especially your flaws. And if you’re hiding those, you’ll never find them.
M: Well, there you have it, straight from the man himself. Thank you, Raven. If you’d like to find out more about Kara and Raven, pick up a copy of my novel: The Laws of Entanglement.
What would you say is one of your flaws? Have you been hiding it from your prospective relationship partners? Comment below and let me know.